Home is intriguing. It is where life begins, where life stays, and where life grows. Memories. Routines. Comfort (maybe not all the time). Most important: family.
As a wife and soon-to-be mom, I feel it is my duty to make our home a comfy, happy, organized dwelling.
Where did I get this ingrained, it seems, duty?
It could be from my own childhood home. My mother’s full time job was homemaker, having most of the responsibility and time to clean, organize, cook, nurture, play. Her being home with us before we started school, there every morning and afternoon before and after school, and at home each day of every summer break was a blessing, I have come to realize.
Watching her and loving the home, cleaning, cooking, and kids, I have always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. But the longing to upkeep the house seems to be deeper than just a vocational dream.
“An excellent wife who can find?…
She rises while it is yet night
And provides food for her household
And portions for her maidens…
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed in scarlet…
She looks well to the ways of her household
And does not eat the bread of idleness…
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.”
-Proverbs 31:10,15, 21, 30-31
The book of wisdom in the Bible ends with a encouraging and God honoring description of a woman who fears Him and serves her household and husband.
Read 1 Timothy 5 about widows and anyone providing for their household. This womanly managing of the household theme is intertwined.
In Titus 2, Paul writes about how older women should be:
“They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” -Titus 2:3-5
God’s design for women gave us a role to manage our households. Of course there are many surface level ways to do that, full time homemaker, working mom, grandmother, etc. and a whole lot of life circumstances that could make each of our ways of managing our household look different. But the main thing that should be kept in the center of any home situation is to fear the Lord and have faith (assurance, hope) that He helps you to be self-controlled, diligent, loving, submissive to your husband, a servant, and kind-hearted, so as to honor Him and serve your family, whatever it may look like.
This raises a lot of questions in the culture we live in. What are some of those questions? (Comment below. Please be kind with your words!)
This duty I feel is part of the way God made me and how He has been (and is) changing me to reflect His truth and glory. It is more than just liking being at home, being organized, wanting the best for my family, or loving to clean!